Don’t Forget to Enjoy the Ride

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Success, in its many forms, is something we all aim for… but in our rush, have we started to forget about the journey?

Recently, I couldn’t help but notice many of the talented babes I know (through both internet and face-to-face friendship) express that they were feeling exhausted, overwhelmed and a little frustrated, because in aspects of their lives, things are still a work in progress.

It feels like there’s less talk about the exciting period of trial and error, of experimenting and getting a real sense of what feels ‘right’ and much more pressure to have ready-made success.

Not only have we given up on embracing the journey, but it almost has a stigma attached to it. We want our new ventures to be kicking butt (and so we should!), but we want it immediately – if not sooner!

Celebrating milestones – that first piece of glowing feedback that you feel like framing, exceeding small goals and seeing your seed of an idea grow into something amazing. It feels so rewarding when all the pieces start to fall into place and yet the process seems to have been left in the dust. Can we still enjoy the ride?

It makes me wonder where this intense feeling of urgency originates from: is it worrying about what others might think? Or does it come from comparing ourselves to people and the highlight reels we see on our social media feeds? Sure, putting in the hours doesn’t always look glamorous (even with a filter on it), but it’s surely something to be proud of?

It’s OKAY not to have it all figured out just yet, and it’s OKAY to have a work in progress. If we knew all the answers right away, life would be a heck of a lot less interesting. It’s kind of like picking up a book and skipping to the last page to see how it ends! Where’s the fun in that?!

I love a success story, and to see other people live their dreams, but I also really enjoy seeing HOW it happened. Like when you read about companies that started off in someone’s kitchen and went on to become household names – I can’t help but feel inspired by those kind of stories!

So here’s the thing: don’t forget to enjoy the ride. You’re on the road to something great, which is so exciting, but if you don’t soak up the little moments too, you’re missing out on what makes it so great in the first place.

Here’s to finding joy in the journey…

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Self Care Sessions: 3 Books to Nourish Your Mind, Body and Soul

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In my Self Care Sessions series, you’ll find me sharing ways that I’ve been investing time and care in myself, just in case any of you guys have been feeling the pressure and are looking for ways to balance things a bit better too! You can check out my last post here!

I’ve always been a bookworm and when I was little I’d read pretty much anything I could get my paws on, even if I probably shouldn’t have been reading it quite yet (a few Stephen King books spring to mind…). What I loved most was getting lost in novels and spending an afternoon wrapped up in music biographies. While stories – real life or fictional – still fascinate me, as I get older I find myself enjoying other people’s advice, experience and views on a particular topic.

Most recently, I’ve been enjoying a few titles that carry a similar theme of self care, yet they all seem to approach it from a different angle. Books ideal for keeping handy in case you need a little boost! Two of them are very handbag-friendly, whereas the other would be right at home on your kitchen counter.

I’d love to share the details with you, so here’s a round up! These are 3 books to nourish your mind, body and soul…

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For the mind: A Mindfulness Guide for the FRAZZLED by Ruby Wax. When I hear the name Ruby Wax, I instantly associate her with her comedy writing and performance. However, she has also done a great deal of work and studying out of the limelight – earning a Masters from Oxford in Cognitive Therapy and being awarded an OBE for her services to mental health awareness.

FRAZZLED is Ruby’s guide to shaking off stress, de-cramming our brains and living a happier life. From the science behind how our minds actually work, to dealing with relationships, this book covers a LOT but does it in an accessible way that balances razor-sharp personal anecdotes with practical advice. You’ve nothing to lose but your stress.

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For the body: Keep It Real by Calgary Avansino. Part recipe book, part guide to living in a more healthy, organised (and did I mention delicious?) way, what I love about Calgary’s book is that it seems to be compilation of so many subjects that are popular right now.

Covering plant-powered diets, meal prep, ditching refined sugar, the importance of fuelling our bodies correctly and actually pulling off a successful grocery shop (we’ve all made a few poor choices in aisle 12, am I right?!), this is a great go-to guide for anyone looking to explore any of these topics. Not only that, but Keep It Real is also stuffed with yummy recipes. This book was a lovely gift from my brother, and I always feel motivated to make healthier choices after flicking through it!

For the soul: Wake Up! Escaping A Life on Autopilot by Chris Baréz-Brown. This book is quite literally a wake up call, and a call to action for anyone who is going through the motions and missing out on real moments and connections as a result. The book is based on the theory that 80% of our time is spent on autopilot, a result of buzzing around, being tremendously busy and always thinking about the next thing on the list, rather than enjoying the present. Sound familiar?

Wake Up! is the most interactive book I’m sharing with you today, filled with stimulating exercises and activities to help us break free from the trap of autopilot. The book is also designed to act as a journal, with spaces to track our progress towards living a calmer, more memorable life. It’s all about making each day count and that’s something I can really get behind.

The last thing that these titles all have in common is that they are perfect for dipping in and out of, thanks to chapters structured in short chunks. It means that they will be easy to return to, if I ever need to, without reading from cover to cover.

I’d recommend the above books to anyone looking to practice a bit more self care, and want to know if you’ve read anything lately that you’ve enjoyed!

Love,

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If You Don’t Try, You’ll Never Know

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Last week, I was having an official Proud Pal Moment on a massive scale. Three of my friends had totally shaken up their professional lives (in three completely different ways, I might add!) and I could not be more excited for them. I’m STILL very excited for them!

From starting their own business, to stepping out of their regular routine, walking into a new work environment and finally, pushing themselves to go that one step higher; each of them decided to take the leap of faith required to try something new. Risky? Yes. Brave? Yes. Important? Oh, hell yes!

And here’s why: comfort zones are good, to an extent. They are familiar, and make us feel safe. Sometimes though, they can feel more like a rut. This is especially true if you’ve stopped learning and feel like you can’t bring anything new to your work. You’ve achieved all of your goals and all of the additional ones you came up with, too. It then becomes less comfortable and more…boring.

If the average full-time working person spends around 40 hours of their week doing something (and that’s a LOT of time when you stop and think about it), do they really want to spend it feeling bored? I know I don’t!

I am a firm believer that pushing ourselves to step out of that comfort zone and challenging ourselves doesn’t just keep things interesting on a day-to-day level, it also helps us to see just what we’re capable of.

By taking on a new project, you might discover skills you never knew you had. If you seize a new opportunity (or create one!) your confidence will soar, and you’ll wonder why it took you so long to raise your hand and say “hey, I can do that”!

It might be that what you’re currently doing is causing you stress, and life is way too short to spend it feeling miserable. When one friend decided to leave all of that behind and put herself first, even at the risk of having to start again in a new workplace, I 100% knew she was doing the right thing.

Whatever the scenario may be, taking a leap and trying something different (no matter how big or small) IS scary, but I’ve always found that it will be worth it!

If you don’t try, you’ll never know.

Here’s to taking risks and always growing…

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